Have you ever felt stuck in a cycle of struggle, working hard yet never having enough? You’re not alone. I know exactly how it feels to wonder where the next meal will come from or how to keep the lights on. But here’s the thing: everything changed for me when I discovered one simple truth about my relationship with money.
Money isn’t about grinding harder. It’s not about working yourself to the bone. It’s about understanding its energy, building a healthy relationship with it, and allowing abundance to flow into your life.
Not too long ago, I was a struggling father living in a $500-a-month apartment in the hood. My job at the mall barely paid $8 an hour, and I could never seem to keep up with rent, bills, or groceries. The breaking point came when I couldn’t afford diapers for my baby. I remember sitting in my old Dodge Neon, staring at my bank account: 19 cents. That moment changed everything.
I realized I couldn’t continue living this way. There were people around me living abundant lives, and I knew at least one of them had written about how they did it. I dove into books like Think and Grow Rich and The Richest Man in Babylon. I discovered that my biggest problem wasn’t my skills or education—it was my mindset and my toxic relationship with money.
That’s when I discovered three secrets that absolutely changed the way I looked at money. When I implemented these three secrets into my life, I started to experience abundance. All of a sudden, I was having $5,000 months, then $10K, then $30K, and it felt like it wouldn’t stop. Free trips to Japan, London, Paris, and eating amazing food became my reality. My whole life changed, all thanks to these three secrets that I’m going to share with you now.
How I Discovered the 3 Secrets to Abundance
Through trial, error, and a lot of self-reflection, I uncovered three secrets that transformed my financial life. These secrets helped me rebuild my relationship with money, break free from scarcity, and welcome abundance into my life. Today, I want to share them with you.
These aren’t quick fixes or magic tricks. They’re powerful shifts in mindset and behavior that anyone can implement. If you’re ready to transform your financial future, let’s dive in.
Secret #1: The Waiting Game – Sit With Your Money
When money enters your life, how quickly do you spend it? For most of us, it’s gone as soon as it arrives—bills, groceries, debt. This cycle keeps us stuck. Here’s the secret: don’t spend it immediately. Instead, let it sit.
Start with one day. Then try two days, then a week. As you wait, observe how it feels to see money in your account without the anxiety of needing to spend it. This small habit shifts your mindset from scarcity to abundance.
When I first tried this, I realized how uncomfortable I was letting money “just sit there.” It felt unnatural. But over time, I grew more confident. I started to feel in control, like money wasn’t dictating my life. The more I let it stay, the more I noticed money returning to me in unexpected ways.
Now, I can let thousands of dollars sit in my account for months because I’ve built trust with money. This one practice can transform your energy and invite more abundance into your life.
Secret #2: Reevaluate Your Money Beliefs – Who Taught You About Money?
What do you believe about money? More importantly, who taught you those beliefs? For many of us, our ideas about money come from people who struggled with it—our parents, teachers, or friends.
I grew up believing money was evil. I thought wealth came from greed or wrongdoing. Every movie I watched reinforced this idea—the rich guy was always the villain. And these beliefs shaped my reality. I lived paycheck to paycheck, constantly broke, and believed the world was stacked against me.
When I started questioning these beliefs, everything changed. I realized that money isn’t good or evil—it’s a tool. It amplifies who you already are. If you’re generous, money allows you to be more generous. If you’re selfish, it amplifies that, too.
Here’s an exercise: write down every belief you have about money. Then ask yourself, Does this belief serve me? If it doesn’t, replace it with one that does. For example: “Money is hard to earn” becomes “Money flows to me easily and abundantly.” Start rewiring your mindset, and you’ll see how quickly your reality shifts.
Secret #3: Build a Positive Relationship With Money – See It as a Tool for Good
Imagine what your life would look like if money were abundant. What would you do with it? Who would you help? How would it change your community?
Over the past four years, I’ve been able to give back over $500,000 to my community. I’ve hosted powwows, funded language programs, and fed elders and families in need. None of this would’ve been possible if I hadn’t changed my relationship with money.
Here’s how I did it:
- Recognize Money as a Tool: It’s not something to fear or worship—it’s a resource. Just like a hammer builds a house, money builds opportunities.
- Visualize the Good You Can Do: When you think of money, don’t focus on bills or debt. Focus on the impact you can create—whether it’s helping a loved one, building a dream project, or creating stability for your family.
- Affirm Your Abundance: Repeat affirmations like, “I am a money magnet. Money loves being around me. I attract money effortlessly.” These small shifts create a big impact over time.
When you see money as an ally, not an enemy, it wants to stay with you. It wants to grow with you. And that’s when you unlock true abundance.
Why This Matters
Changing my relationship with money didn’t just change my bank account—it changed my life. I went from a struggling father to someone who provides for my family, serves my community, and lives abundantly. And the best part? You can too.
Here’s What to Do Next
If this story resonates with you, take action today. Start by implementing these three secrets and watch how abundance begins to flow into your life. Your dream life isn’t as far away as you might think—it’s waiting for you to take the first step.
